My dear friends, you have always obeyed God when I was with you. It is even more important that you obey now while I am away from you.

Keep on working to complete your salvation with fear and trembling, because God is working in you to help you want to do and be able to do what pleases him.

(Philippians 2:12-13 NCV)
  honesty w/ God, ourselves, others
  honesty with ourselves
  honesty with others
If there is not honesty in the search, then there will not be honesty in the discovery.  Was "rummaging" through an old notebook I used to carry to work to jog down my thoughts and ran across this.  Seemed appropriate.

Oswald Chambers

If you cannot express yourself on any subject, struggle until you can.  If you do not, someone will be the poorer all the days of his life.  Struggle to re-express some truth of God to yourself, and God will use that expression to someone else.  Go through the winepress of God where the grapes are crushed.  You must struggle to get expression experimentally, then there will come a time when that expression will become the very wine of strengthening to someone else; but if you say lazily -- "I am not going to struggle to express this thing for myself, I will borrow what I say," the expression will not only be of no use to you, but of no use to anyone.
You gotta' read this!
Must read!